Motherless Mother's Day

 

In the lead up to Mother’s Day, we receive many reminders about marking this special occasion. 

And while it’s important to celebrate the women who brought us into this world, it can be triggering for a lot of us who no longer have our mums around.

I deliberated about posting something. My intention is not to take away from the celebrations. It‘s to honour and make space for anyone who might be struggling.

I’m sharing a 10 minute sketch I did of me aged 8 on the left rocking my favourite 90s jumpsuit, and me now on the right offering my younger self the mothering I’m missing. 

Mothering looks different to everyone, but for me, mothering is channeling her comforting voice to soothe me, gently nursing the ache in my belly, being kind to myself when I’m angry and sad. These are ways I can offer myself the kindness and compassion I need and what she’d want for me.

The next picture is my beautiful mother, Sara, who passed away in August 2015, smiling with boundless love.

If you‘re missing your mum, my heart goes out to you. I’m with you. Perhaps we can all try and hold ourselves lovingly where it hurts.

This Mother’s Day do what feels right for you, but please be gentle with yourself and whatever may arise. 

I’ll be having a cacao ceremony with a dear friend who has known me all my life and loved my mum. An empathetic and understanding support system is really helpful during these times, so my friend and I will be marking the occasion together.  

My thoughts are with you all ♥

 
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